Or running away into the mountains . . . or going over a wall in a basket . . . or hiding on a roof . . .
There is still suffering in the loss of a relationship and recovery from a betrayal, suffering that will remind us to turn our eyes to Jesus Christ for our hope and healing. But this is not the willful suffering of putting oneself under cruelty on purpose, thinking that it will somehow refine you.
There is only one Refiner. It is Jesus Christ. There is only one way to be refined. It is by faith in Him.
Sometimes suffering is completely unavoidable. Sometimes suffering is a path we must go through in order to attain a vital goal. But instead of assuming that all suffering is desirable, we can ask the Holy Spirit to help us discern. Is this suffering completely unavoidable? Is this suffering to be endured for a vital goal?
Or is this a suffering that we can and should escape?
We can suffer intelligently.