“Why are you so negative?” A response to “positive” people

Not long ago someone told me about her pastor’s sermons, almost all of which scolded his listeners for being “so negative” and urged them to be “more positive.” That led me to post a question about the topic on Facebook that led to an excellent discussion.

When I posted my question, I wanted to be spurred in my own thinking by my friends, and I wanted to hear the experiences of others. Mostly I wanted to think Biblically about discerning good from evil, warning others about evil, asking for help regarding evil, grieving evil, and other necessary kinds of speech that could be interpreted as “critical” or “negative.”

Note: The quotations that I use in this blog post are from the comments in that Facebook post, some of them edited for brevity or clarity.

Does the Word of God caution us to “avoid those who are negative”?

No. The Bible doesn’t talk about “positivity” or “negativity” at all.

Because it doesn’t, we can’t go to the Bible to find out what the terms mean. This is a big problem, as you can imagine, especially when pastors are talking about “negativity” in their sermons.

Does “positivity” mean saying only things that make us think of rainbows and fluffy bunnies? Does being “positive” mean saying only pleasant  things about everyone and only pleasant things about my own life condition?

Are you talking about like…when someone says, “So how are you doing?” and I respond (in a sort of upbeat tone of voice), “As good as can be expected.”  And I hear back, “That’s all?” “Yep, how are you doing?” “Blessed better than I deserve.”

How can we get away from the dishonesty of saying, “Great!” and not feel slapped in the face when we try to be honest…but not too negative?

Does “negativity” mean saying things that trouble someone’s rosy paradigm of the world we live in?

Jesus called the Pharisees a brood of vipers. (#negativity! )

Does “negativity,” alternatively, mean pointing a finger at someone when you know you have three fingers pointing back at yourself?

Hmmm . . . hard to know when the Bible doesn’t define it, right? The Bible uses terms like good and evil, darkness and light, and righteousness and wickedness.

Have you been accused of being “negative”?

Let’s say Beth sees Annie at church and asks Annie how Annie is doing. Annie decides to be honest and says, “To tell the truth, I’m not doing well.”

Beth can inwardly think, “I can’t handle all this negativity” and outwardly say, “Cheer up! Look on the bright side! It takes 273 more muscles to frown than it does to smile! God is always good! See you later!”

Or Beth can show open her heart, show compassion, ask “What’s going on?” and just listen.

Four types of “negativity”

As I read the insightful comments from my friends and prayed for discernment, a pattern began to emerge. I began to see four types of “negativity.” People are usually rebuked as “negative” for at least three of the four, but not all four types are sinful.

1a. The “negativity” of grieving and processing loss and harm

Look back at the scenario of Beth and Annie again. What if Annie says, “I can’t seem to get past Julie’s death.” (Julie being her teenage daughter who died in an accident ten months ago.)

Beth can inwardly think, “This negativity is so sucking the life out of me,” and outwardly say, “You remember she’s in heaven, right? She knew Jesus. And you’ll see her again one day. All the angels rejoice when a child of God comes home, you remember that, right? Look at what you’ve still got, your other two children, a nice place to live, friends like me, a church that brought you meals for three weeks.”

Or Beth can grasp a deeper understanding of grief and say something like, “Can we set a time for you to talk more to me about Julie and tell me about her? I know she was an amazing girl, but I didn’t know her well, and I’d like to honor her memory that way.”

That will take a large capacity and great compassion, because sitting with grief is not easy. But it is what Jesus has called us to do in our love for others.

I think it’s really important to be able to mourn what is NOT right in the world.

The psalms and book of Lamentations speaks of pain so profoundly and without sugar coating the horrors or putting a “positive spin” on it.

The psalmists vulnerably poured out their hearts and were not fearful to say “how long Lord?” Or to acknowledge their grief, feeling of abandonment, or frustration.

Psalms was the Old Testament prayer book, and Jesus quoted it on the cross when he felt honestly ditched by God. He had learned to pray in pain from his heart without sugar coating his feelings.

Psalm 42:9-10 I say to God, my rock: “Why have you forgotten me? Why do I go mourning because of the oppression of the enemy? As with a deadly wound in my bones, my adversaries taunt me, while they say to me all the day long, ‘Where is your God?’”

Psalm 56:8 You keep track of all of my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.

I’ve written more about how important it is for Christians to understand the “negativity” of grief in several other blog posts, such as here and here, as well as in Untwisting Scriptures.

1b. The “negativity” of asking for help regarding an unsafe person

When Beth and Annie are talking, what if instead Annie says, “It’s Jonathan. I just can’t seem to ever make him happy. I try so hard, but he’s always displeased with me, always angry. I don’t know what else to do.”

Beth could inwardly think, “Oh boy I don’t want to get in the middle of marriage squabbles,” and outwardly say, “You need to honor your husband by speaking well of him, not negatively. It’s wrong to gossip.”

Or she could say, “Maybe you can tell me more about what’s going on there.” And listen and learn and possibly even help.

The widow bringing her case before the unjust judge in Jesus’ parable in Luke 18:1-8 certainly was “negative,” wasn’t she? Using incendiary language like “adversary.” I can picture the judge rolling his eyes and wanting this “negative” woman to just go away.

But Jesus commended her for continuing to speak to an authority who was unjust, crying out to him to set things right.

2.     The “negativity” of pointing out wrongdoing that needs to be dealt with

(Someone asked me to write about the difference between “having a critical spirit” and “discerning good from evil.” This post is it.)

If we speak good, righteousness, and light, will we sometimes be accused of being “negative”?

Though “critical spirit” is a common accusation against those who point out wickedness and the facilitation of wickedness, it is not a Scriptural term, and thus can mean whatever the speaker wants it to mean. It generally means, “You’re speaking negatively against someone I think you shouldn’t speak negatively against, so you’re wrong.”

You are accused of being critical. Adding the word “spirit” makes it sound Biblical, but it isn’t. There’s no such thing, Biblically, as a sinful “critical spirit.”

The Bible does talk about “grumblers and faultfinders,” though. That’s a problme I’ll talk about in another section.

But it’s clear from the Bible that speaking negatively about someone else is not ipso facto sin. We can know that from the example of Jesus and others in Scripture.

Jesus said “the words that I speak are spirit and life.” That includes the negative words He spoke.

 Jesus spoke negatively about many things so how does one who is Christlike speak positively about everything?

If we are expected to have a Gothard/Phillips-style “joyful countenance” every moment of the day, it leaves no space for all the other emotions God gave us. Oh, and also it prevents us from calling out hypocrisy when we see it. Hmmmm…🤔…how convenient.

When trying to explain what was happening with the abusive cult I was in, many of my remaining friends and their parents limited my speech to only being “positive” and non-confrontational. “It’s not of God if it’s negative. Just be grateful,” was a constant refrain. My inability to conform but instead keep talking about the abuse in the cult got me labeled “negative” and summarily excised from anyone who hadn’t already shunned me. 

Those who point out wrongdoing may often be called “negative” . . . and actually they are. But the Bible and history are replete with examples showing us that this—calling out wickedness and the facilitation of wickedness—is a kind of necessary negativity.

3a. The “negativity” of doubting or fearing

Yes, this is a true problem, as Jesus pointed out to His disciples after He calmed the storm: “Oh you of little faith, why did you doubt?” Yes, they should have trusted Jesus in that storm.

Or when He walked on the water and called to them, “It is I. Don’t be afraid!” Yes, they shouldn’t have been afraid.

BUT, two things about doubting and fearing.

First of all, often when people are struggling in a way that some might think goes in THIS category, their “negativity” really belongs in category #1. It’s often really grieving and needs a compassionate ear.

Or it may be a roundabout way of asking for help because of someone who is dangerous.

The truth is that we don’t know the depression or anxiety someone may struggle with, and we don’t know the layers underneath. (There may be trauma that they don’t even recognize influencing their responses to life.) We shouldn’t befriend people with the caveat that if they can’t get over it by ______, we’re out.

I have been shamed so much for this, and it never helped me have a more positive outlook. Love (and growth over time) and looking forward to something better have.

Fearing or doubting, which is not part of mature Christianity, can be met with patient forbearance, even as Jesus did as He gently rebuked His disciples. We listen and love and continue to point them to Jesus, the way we would a child who is frightened by a thunderstorm.

The people I most appreciate have allowed me to struggle without demanding that I prove my situation is JUST AS hard/ bad as [someone else]. So I also want to validate others’ suffering even if it doesn’t match mine.

 I’ve never been particularly interested in getting rid of negativity. I have a lot of empathy for those who struggle; I may not be able to do anything about it, but I’m not going to not be around someone just because he or she is going through something difficult. In fact, that’s when I want to be around people the most. I think sometimes we get out of sorts when those in pain don’t react or do things the way we want them to. But the key is, that isn’t a threat to us or our well being (usually). It hurts to see someone go down a dark round and make bad choices, but that’s no reason to abandon him or her.

3b. The “negativity” of complaining

How can we discern if someone is complaining? Is it complaining if it isn’t seeking solutions, but only rehashing the problem?

Well, maybe not.

Dr. Diane Langberg. among others, has talked about how people who have been traumatized need to process their experiences, and some people need to do that processing through speech, which means talking about their experiences again and again and AGAIN.

Some people could see that as complaining. But Langberg emphasizes the importance of being willing to listen to people who are trying to wrap their minds around trauma, to listen to them again and again and again.

As a friend and I addressed in “You just need to be content: a response to Desiring God,” genuine complaining that needs to be gently rebuked is complaining about material provisions beyond the needed basics. (For example, the Old Covenant people, the Israelites, complained about the manna.) As Paul said in Philippians 2:14-16:

Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world,  holding fast the word of life, so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain.

But David “complained” to the Lord, and he wasn’t rebuked for it, because he was “complaining” about the wicked people in his life, asking for help, for example in Psalm 142:1-2.

“With my voice I cry out to the Lord; with my voice I plead for mercy to the Lord. I pour out my complaint before him; I tell my trouble before him.”

I often pray with people over their overwhelming “complaints,” their situations that seem impossible, with the same kinds of strong persecutors this psalm references. The Lord wants us to take these complaints to Him, even take them to Him together.

4.     The “negativity” of speaking words to purposely cause harm to others

This is the bitter—or “poisonous”—person described in Hebrews 12:15, as explained at length in Untwisting Scriptures and to a lesser degree in this blog post.

Because the person is “poisonous,” then it would be an apt synonym to use the word “toxic”—even though it’s not a Biblical term.

The Bible refers to grumblers and fault-finders in Jude verse 16, the context of which is here:

Now Enoch, the seventh in descent beginning with Adam, even prophesied of them [the wicked], saying, “Look! The Lord is coming with thousands and thousands of his holy ones, to execute judgment on all, and to convict every person of all their thoroughly ungodly deeds that they have committed, and of all the harsh words that ungodly sinners have spoken against him.” These people are grumblers and fault-finders who go wherever their desires lead them, and they give bombastic speeches, enchanting folks for their own gain.

How can they be “enchanters” at the same time they are “grumblers and fault-finders”? Welcome to the world of the toxic person of Hebrews 12:15.

A “toxic” person is someone who is abusive, living in the works of the flesh in Galatians 5 and refusing to address their own brokenness. 

“Toxic” people live in a cycle of self-destructiveness that threatens others. They’re helped (typically) when they’re stopped or exposed.

 A toxic person; marked by acts that elevate one person over another by insult, manipulation, threatening, belittling, or controlling. One who causes sickness in another by such acts as noted and can result in mental, emotional, spiritual, or in some cases, physical death.

 When confronted with wickedness, evil and great sin — we need to flee. We need not to play the game with the wicked ones, therefore to them we are the ‘negative ones’ because we can’t endorse their wickedness.

 Only a fool comes to listen to a so-called “negative person ” without discerning between the two, and whose counsel and comments probably should be best thrown out the window. Not everyone is competent to counsel and many well-intentioned but misguided people do a lot of damage because they cannot tell the difference.

Laying it out graphically

If we were to chart all the kinds of “negativity,” they might all look something like this:

What kind of religion talks about “negativity” and “positivity”?

 The friends I have who post about being positive are not Christians. In their minds being positive has nothing to do with light, and being negative has nothing to do with darkness. It seems to be a mishmash of yin and yang theology.

 A friend of mine is dabbling in Law of Attraction and other things, even some witchcraft… “Positive” and “negative” are frequently referenced. Commonly associated with “energy.”

 I have never seen positive/negative terminology in the Bible either. It have a friend who is a former Wiccan. These terms were used VERY often there.

What’s the solution?

Walk and speak in truth and love. Live with love and empathy especially for the oppressed and struggling, with a willingness to listen with a compassionate heart. Speak truth, gently to the harmed and boldly to the harmers.

This is surely the way of our Lord Jesus. He had no concerns about his speech being “positive” or “negative.” He spoke the truth with love.

This is mission work. Some of those who have been harmed by so-called Christ-followers will come to know who He really is, will experience His actual love in all its fulness. Then they’ll want to turn from their old ways and give their hearts to Him.

Is it easy? No, it isn’t. Is it dark? Sometimes. But He calls us to live a life of truth and love, by the power of His Spirit. He calls us to follow Him. And no matter how “negative” life gets, there will be nothing more “positive” than that.

 

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God's Beloved
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God's Beloved

I found this post very helpful, especially in considering how I respond to others. I certainly know I didn’t bother often to say anything more than, “fine” when asked how I was doing because no one wants to hear the truth, and it made for awkward situations when I would actually say, “not so well today”. I would like to have the compassion hurting people are looking for, having been there myself. I know what it is like not to receive it.

NG
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NG

Thank you for this.

A common one is ‘Just be thankful for all that you have / all that is going well in your life. Why are you complaining when God has done so much for you?’

It seems to escape these people that it is perfectly all right to be grateful for everything that is good, and *still* lament for the deep need / deep grief in one’s life. Both – sadness and thankfulness – are honest realities of life, honorable and valid.

Bev Sterk
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Bev Sterk

Bless your heart Rebecca, i so appreciate you! thanks for sharing this… I grieved over the state of the Church for 4 years as I started to realize the appalling abuses of power going on and brought them to leaders attention… Sundays were the hardest days. I wrote up a list of 95 laments… when I shared that I was grieving with several leaders, there was no acknowledgemtn, no response, therefore no follow up or support… one leader did ask me, why don’t you smile more… ugh! what I was finding was deeply disturbing… and not only was there no support, there was resistance… sigh… Thank God, He is good and working it out for His glory and our good, but it was 4 difficult years with no support from my home church, let alone the backlash I received. Thank God, He helped me understanding what I was grieving over… Zeph 3:18-21 NKJV; Ezek 9:4; Psalm 69, esp v9 &20

Victoria
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Victoria

This was just the BEST blog discussion to read! Thank you so much. I have worried so about having a critical spirit, good to know that is not a Biblical thing. Also it prompted me to want to help others by listening to them in their grief and pain, as I go through my own marital pain right now. As I professed my desire to help others that way to God, not one but two BlueJays appeared in my yard! What a wonderful sign from God!!!

Mina
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Mina

When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey and bowed down before David with her face to the ground. 24 She fell at his feet and said: “Pardon your servant, my lord, and let me speak to you; hear what your servant has to say. 25 Please pay no attention, my lord, to that wicked man Nabal. He is just like his name—his name means Fool, and folly goes with him. And as for me, your servant, I did not see the men my lord sent. 26 And now, my lord, as surely as the Lord your God lives and as you live, since the Lord has kept you from bloodshed and from avenging yourself with your own hands, may your enemies and all who are intent on harming my lord be like Nabal.

Was Abigail honoring her husband by calling him wicked? Maybe just as much as Jesus honored the Pharisees by calling them a ‘brood of vipers’. She didn’t fulfill his wishes either. She went behind his back. She even prophesied that David’s enimies would fall. Nabel was David’s enemy. David didn’t rebuke Abigail for saying how terrible of you to speak negatively about your husband. Can you write a blog post about this? We are to bless our enimies and yet we are to discern good from evil and call out wickedness.

Z
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We DESPERATELY need more true Christians with the heart AND the love of speaking truth to and about hypocrisy and evil that Jesus displayed. We need Christians who hate what God hates. Oppression and abuse would fit that category. And His righteous anger at this hypocrisy and evil when it’s DONE by people who call themselves “Christians” TO His true children. We need Christian people who will weep and mourn with those of us who are weeping and mourning for more than a minute only.

I’m an abuse victim-family abuse of every kind by “Christian” parents from my childhood through adulthood-that MANY “Christian relatives” and “church Christians” knew and still know about yet did and said nothing to help us children be safe nor did they speak out against it when it was done in their presence when I became an adult.

I was left to stand alone to set boundaries on parents and codependent siblings and I “called out” in love those “Christian” relatives, with whom I kept relationships, who regularly witnessed the abuses all my life. Did my boundaries and truthtelling change any of their behaviors? It ESCALATED THEM! I became a target of everyone. Especially when I called had to call police on the abusers for a violent attack on my husband-a crime. I was completely shunned by the entire clan and lifelong friends without their blinking an eye. How much value did I have in their lives? Zero apparently.

So now I observe that this abuse issue seems to be something very, very few Christians are willing to just “be present”, to support even their good friends who either have been abused as children and are dealing with it and/or exposing it or still are victims or are processing a lifetime of childhood and adult abuses, like I am doing now. It seems as if the processing isn’t “over and done with” in about 2 weeks or so, they can’t or won’t “hang in there” with the victim. I can’t fathom why. I’d want to be there for my friends. (Are they frustrated that there’s no quick fix? Frustrated that no simple platitudes can make the horrors go away?…) They start backing away. At the very time the LAST THING the victim needs is MORE heartache and abandonment and suffering of isolation.

Exposing abusers means pretty much losing life as one knew it. Losing one’s entire family, including extended family and lifelong mutual friends, who all often side with the abuser to avoid ANY personal cost or even “discomfort” or repercussions themselves, is par for the course. BECAUSE they KNOW what the abuser is capable of when “crossed”. They KNOW the victim is telling the truth about the abuse! Most witnessed it. But they’ve allowed themselves/chosen to be preemptively groomed and polished and bought-off by the abusers specifically for the day when they may be or ARE exposed. To become their Flying Monkeys/enablers/liars/“smear the victims” artists/even abusers-by-proxy.. and they pretty much all easily comply. These evil abusers and their enablers even try to make God a “Flying Monkey” for them too! Twisting His holy Word to victimize the victim more. And to try to justify their evil and betrayals. God is NOT A FOOL. This I KNOW.

We victims are left to feel like we are so valueless that we’ve been sold out for the Judas-like 30 pieces of silver. More blows to the victim’s heart. This betrayal is what I can’t wrap my head around. Sometimes it’s WORSE than trying to process the abuses! I know it’s common “101 Abuser-Enabler Handbook” behavior and to be expected. But to experience it is beyond more stabs to the heart. There are no words. And to have to face processing these betrayals too, on top of the abuses, alone, is almost too much to bear.

Only Jesus and my dear husband, also abused by my family criminally and violently,(the reason I had to call the police on them-no choice) know and are fully with me. I have my Godly REAL CHRISTIAN husband’s full support and he has mine. And Jesus has seen ALL OF IT and cares-I know. He sustains me when I think I can’t go on. But we are wired for human contact and kindness. They are so necessary to heal from severe longterm multiple traumas. I get that NO support from these fake people is far better than having fake support from hundreds of them. But the lonlieness in real suffering is at times unbearable.

Exposing and reporting abusers means losing one’s church family too as one by one Christian friends and also church leadership also deeply disappoint and let down the victim. They disappear too.

There are also financial losses if legal action is rightly taken for crimes they committed. The victim is shunned for “doing this to family” by most everyone! As if violent crimes get a pass because a family member committed it?

Being left alone by “Christians” to process ALL these unspeakable traumas alone isn’t the way of Jesus that’s for sure. I’m clear on that. It’s totally on the backs of all those people that they CHOOSE to do nothing, or worse, to side with known evil when confronted with human suffering they KNOW is true. Going through this can bring one to the brink of insanity.

I’m referring to the betrayals and abandonment of what I’d always considered good Christians and the complete and utter disillusionment I now have with humanity. Especially the “church” and what I thought Christians would act like. That’s a whole other trauma and “stake through the heart” on top of the abuses. I feel I can’t trust anyone. And that’s not paranoia. It’s true and real because these things have happened by people who are supposed to represent Jesus. The sadness people can heap on suffering people shouldn’t come from “Christians” but it does all too often.

cindy burrell
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Man, Jesus sure was negative! The legalistic know-it-alls would surely have to accuse Him of needing an attitude adjustment.

“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you tithe mint and dill and cummin, and have neglected the weightier provisions of the law: justice and mercy and faithfulness; but these are the things you should have done without neglecting the others. “You blind guides, who strain out a gnat and swallow a camel! Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you clean the outside of the cup and of the dish, but inside they are full of robbery and self-indulgence. You blind Pharisee, first clean the inside of the cup and of the dish, so that the outside of it may become clean also. Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but inside they are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness. So you, too, outwardly appear righteous to men, but inwardly you are full of hypocrisy and lawlessness. Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you build the tombs of the prophets and adorn the monuments of the righteous, and say, ‘If we had been living in the days of our fathers, we would not have been partners with them in shedding the blood of the prophets.’ So you testify against yourselves, that you are sons of those who murdered the prophets. Fill up, then, the measure of the guilt of your fathers. You serpents, you brood of vipers, how will you escape the sentence of hell?”
Matthew 23:23-33

Z
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You said it all so well Rebecca. And you too, Cindy Burrell, using Jesus’ own many words on the subject.
That’s why I love Jesus so much! His Truth. And His abiding Love we can ALWAYS depend on. We clearly know what He thinks of evil and wickedness and hypocrisy. No vagueness or fakeness with Him.
I don’t know how those who “fit the bill” in His categories of evil, wickedness and hypocrisy-“children of their father satan”, He said-ignore the inevitable Holy Spirit conviction when they know what His Words clearly say. “Sociopaths” with no conscience explains the abusers. How to explain the professsing Christians doing more harm to hurting people. Do they have consciences enough for the Holy Spirit to convict them?
So I’ll stick with Jesus. If He’s all I have, He’ll make sure somehow that He’s more than enough for me.
I’m blessed by this post and the wise responses of my hurting, broken and on their way to healing sisters and brethren.

Mark
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Mark

I would say that someone such as myself that have been referred as being negative, needs to look deep in that persons eyes and realize that what they are seeing isn’t negativity, but instead pain.

T
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T

Thank you for this post. I wanted to respond also to you, Z, your thoughts are mine almost exactly. Thank you for writing them out, I am comforted to hear you and know I am not alone. I already knew that, but I truly appreciate other people communicating these ghastly realities. I feel like they are so hurtful they are unspeakable for me, much of the time. I am so happy for you that you have the fellowship of a believing husband. What a great blessing.

Z
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Z

Praise God, “T”, that my experiences put into words, ones similar to yours that you find unspeakable for yourself right now, have provided you some comfort and sense of community. It seems these interactions between commenting fellow abuse victims (on these helpful edifying blogs, like Rebecca’s, about abuses by “Christians” and aimed at helping their victims) are the ONLY support and sense of community we have.

Its very, very sad that this is true of suffering, hurting, broken Christians, who should have the support of their fellow Christians automatically (according to the Bible)! But instead, our local “Christian communities” find every excuse in the book to turn their eyes away from and even to judge our suffering.

“Walk a mile in my shoes”, I say. You’d never ever be able to even imagine the horrors I’ve experienced. And it seems not many want to bother to try to imagine what those horrors are like and leave us to carry them alone. I call Christian indifference to their fellow Christians’ suffering “disobedience to God”. He says to “carry one another’s burdens” because He knows they are too heavy to carry alone. Of course God’s Word says Jesus walks through it all with us. And I know this to be true. But Christians are still commanded to personally share each other’s “too heavy” burdens. Not to do so is disobedience, regardless of their excuses, impatience, discomfort, indifference, judgments, short attention spans,…

And those Christians who are willingly bribed/conned/bought off by the abusers to keep silent about or worse,to side with their known evil, well, they too are 100% complicit in evil. Period.

T, honestly, if I did not have my believing, supportive, truly godly husband by my side, I just don’t know where I’d be. I don’t know if my traumatized mind could handle all of what’s happened completely alone. Counseling by “Christians” was disastrous and caused further harm.

But for those who find themselves in that place of aloneness, please know that I do believe Jesus would “step in” and be ENOUGH if I were left completely alone to deal with all the traumas and the effects of them.

I will pray for you, T, that God would send good, supportive, true, obedient Christian soldiers to stand by your side. And soon!

In the meantime, I pray, “Lord Jesus, come quickly!” Come with Your Righteousness, Justice and Judgment of evil. Come and wipe away every tear from all victims’ faces. Come and right every wrong. In Jesus Name. Amen.