Rachael Denhollander, the first of the infamous Larry Nassar’s victims to speak publicly, is a Christian. A real Christian. That’s very obvious from her powerful victim impact statement that was posted yesterday. The full transcript of that statement can be read here, but this is the part I want to emphasize: Continue reading “Rachael Denhollander lost her church over her advocacy for abuse survivors”
Last week I wrote a blog post at top speed, for me, the fastest I’d ever gotten a post up. It was David and Louise Turpin: the picture-perfect homeschooling family.
If I’d had a warning ahead of time that this post would receive over twenty times as many views as my previous most popular post ever (which was my Michael Pearl post, in case you’re interested), I probably would have Continue reading “Turpin tragedy: Is homeschooling the problem?”
Let’s take a look at a large picture-perfect homeschooling family.
This is from 2010. So sweet. Continue reading “David and Louise Turpin: the picture perfect homeschooling family”
When I post something about criminal abusers and their criminal enablers in our Christian institutions, I’m often reminded by many voices that our society works on a principle of “innocent until proven guilty.” The argument goes that until a person has been found guilty in court, the rest of us should believe he’s innocent. Continue reading “That “innocent until proven guilty” question: a response to Ryan Fullerton”
When I say “Here’s the Joy,” I just mean me, Rebecca. lol.
A year ago in the fall of 2016 when my first solo adult book, Untwisting Scriptures that were used to tie you up, gag you, and tangle your mind, was about to come out, I panicked just a little bit about my blog. Continue reading “Here’s the Joy looks back over 2017 and looks forward”
Back in September I published a post called “Here’s an abuse survivor’s plea about nouthetic ‘Biblical’ counseling.” You can see it here.
In that post, the anonymous writer gave some astute words about the demand for forgiveness that’s so common in nouthetic/”admonishing” counseling. She said she was told she needed to forgive the childhood sexual abuse perpetrated on her before she even understood what it was she was forgiving.
The Lord tells us we should forgive, yes. But in cases of great betrayal, it takes time even to understand what it was that has occurred.
Note: The “Biblical counseling” being critiqued here is actually nouthetic/admonishing counseling. There are many people who counsel Biblically who do not counsel this way.
This is the third and final installment in a series of articles of commentary on Caroline Newheiser’s lecture “Lving with an Angry Husband,” which you can listen to at this link here (and I especially encourage you to listen to it if you think I may be misrepresenting what Caroline says).
In her lecture, Caroline Newheiser explains the “right way” for a woman to ask for help with her angry (cruel) husband, and how church people should help. Continue reading “Getting help with an “angry husband,” according to “Biblical counseling””
Yesterday I applied Caroline Newheiser’s lecture “Living with an Angry Husband” (link) to the wife of Devin Patrick Kelley, the man who shot and killed 26 people in a Texas church on November 5, 2017. It is a lecture that sounds a very uncertain call to the church, with contradictory counsel. You can read that Part One commentary here (link). Continue reading “Don’t be a martyr, but do suffer in your marriage to an angry husband (and other “Biblical counseling”)”
Note: I put the term “Biblical counseling” in quotation marks not because I believe it’s wrong to counsel with the Bible. (Just the opposite is true, in fact.) But rather, because a certain group of people (nouthetic/”admonishing” counselors) have co-opted this term to apply to their style of counseling, when other counseling that uses the Bible (sometimes called “Christian counseling”) could also be called Biblical counseling.
Recently I listened to a lecture from Caroline Newheiser from the Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship (IBCD) summer 2017 conference (link). I wanted to hear it for two reasons: In this talk Caroline was teaching other “Biblical counselors” (that is, nouthetic/”admonishing” counselors) how to counsel on the topic “Living with an Angry Husband” (link), and this information is pertinent to my interactions. And also, Caroline is the wife of Jim Newheiser, who is now the Director of the Christian Counseling Program at Reformed Theological Seminary in Charlotte, NC (about whom I’ve heard some interesting things) and a respected teacher in her own right. Continue reading “Should Texas church shooter’s wife have gotten “Biblical counseling”? #churchtoo”
Note: This post was born not because I have any particular grandparents in mind, but simply from the fact that so many young people are speaking to me about their rapes. I wish they could speak to you.
You love your granddaughter. You may be wondering what’s been wrong with her lately, why she’s having all those physical problems, or why she suddenly seems to be going off the cliff in her bizarre behavior, or why her parents won’t say much to you about her, or why she’s suddenly avoiding you. Continue reading “Grandma, can I tell you about my rape? A message to kind Christian grandparents #youtoo”