Reflections on my sixtieth birthday: reframing my name

Sixty years is one of those zero milestones, you know. So I’m remembering.

I remember when I was about 30, standing in the large auditorium of my fundamentalist church holding my baby, looking around at the people and thinking, “Where are all those older women who are supposed to be helping me?” They appeared to all be so busy with their own lives and activities.

Then I thought, “I want to become that woman. I want to be an older woman to help the younger.” I set my sights on the age of 50 to accomplish it. I planned out how I would study all the books of the Bible thoroughly by then so I would know the Word of God really well and could teach it. I would talk to younger women about how to keep a house clean and clutter-free, because surely by then I would have figured it out, I would have conquered that Goliath in my life. Continue reading

New book: Tear Down This Wall of Silence now in its second edition

I well remember the 1990s when the sexual abuse scandals among Catholic priests were being broadcast all over the news. But whenever they aired, I turned them off. I didn’t want to know about them because they were horrible. And besides, my pea brain told me, that was the Catholics, and of course horrible stuff like that is going to happen there, but it had nothing to do with me. It was very, very distant from my world. So I thought. (Even though I knew I had a close relative who had been sexually abused. And other girls in college had confided in me that they had been sexually abused. Those were all in a different compartment of my pea brain.)

Well, I’ve repented of that attitude, for sure.

Which brings me to . . .

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I’m so delighted to let everyone know that Tear Down This Wall of Silence  (which you can see on Amazon here) is now in its second edition (with Justice Keepers Publishing) and better than ever! Dale and Faith share a passion to help the oppressed that I’m privileged to be a part of.

What makes this book important? Well, like Unholy Charade, it isn’t written so much to the survivor of abuse (though one chapter is specifically to the survivor) as it is to the churches. Wake up and Continue reading

Holding Hope for 2017

woman-looking-out-the-window-youngAt the end of a year, you might do the same kind of self-reflection I do, thinking over the past year, pondering it.

Thinking about any goals, hopes, and dreams you had at the beginning of the year that you actually accomplished . . .

And the serendipitous experiences and opportunities you hadn’t anticipated that gave the year its special moments of happiness . . .

And the opportunities you thought you were going to have that ended up not every panning out or being utterly disappointing . . .

And the events of the year that absolutely blindsided you, those that you never anticipated walloping you in the stomach. Continue reading

Behind the scenes at “Untwisting Scriptures”

This post is also being published today at A Cry for Justice.

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Hello friends! My newest book has been released on Amazon! I’m glad it’s being released in Domestic Violence Awareness month, since in Christian circles, domestic abuse is almost always interwoven with spiritual abuse. Click here to see the book on Amazon.

I wish I could sit and enjoy a cup of coffee or tea with each of you individually while we talk over some of the Scriptures that have been twisted to keep you or someone you care about in a place of manipulation and control, and think together about Continue reading

Do you see how significant this is?

domestic-violence-1Safe Harbor is a local nonprofit here in the upstate of South Carolina, dedicated to helping victims of domestic abuse in a variety of ways.

Until recently, those “ways” didn’t include a whole lot of interaction with evangelical and fundamentalist churches. Until recently, when a person coming out of abuse wanted to find a conservative church that was safe, Continue reading

New book on the way: “Untwisting Scriptures”

I’ve been hiding in a hole lately, working on the manuscript for this book. While I’ve been working on it, I’ve neglected many emails and most of my housekeeping.

But I’m excited to say it’s almost done! I’ll be addressing topics I’ve addressed in blog posts before, but completely reworked, simplified, and expanded. I had to take a hard look at teachings that had been given by respected speakers and writers.

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It’s a short book so as not to overwhelm readers, with familiar topics including  Continue reading

Bible journaling before Bible journaling was cool

I’ve made references to my Bible journaling in a few of my posts through the years, primarily here and here and here. I even blogged about it for Desiring God. But recently I came across this story written in March of 2000. 

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It  was on the choir tour bus during my junior year of college that a young man I greatly admired challenged me about my devotional life.

“I don’t think it’s right,” he said, “to read the Bible just looking for one verse that sticks out for the day, for a shot in the arm, a spiritual vitamin pill. The Bible is God’s Continue reading

Greenville Woman Cannot Bear Evil, Leaves Primary Love. You Won’t Believe What Happens Next.

January of 2016 was a time of soul quiet for me. I posted almost nothing on any social media outlet, and I spent a lot of time with the Lord.

One thing He showed me was that this passage from Revelation 2, written to the church of Ephesus, fit me almost exactly:

“I know your works and your labor and your patience

and how you cannot bear them which are evil: [Yes, He’s got that right.] Continue reading

Not really six months of silence

I haven’t written anything for my Here’s the Joy devotional blog for over six months. But I really have been doing a lot of writing.

In December I wrote a blog post for the Desiring God website.

In the spring I wrote and presented a three-hour presentation on domestic abuse for a local church here in Greenville, SC, based largely on Continue reading