With Daring Faith, the “new”cover
Thirty years ago this month, my first book was published.
I was thirty years old.
An astute observer might notice that was half my life ago.
These days when those who’ve been abused in a Christian context connect with me, it’s not uncommon for me to hear, “Are you the same Rebecca Davis who wrote
? We read that in our homeschool.” With Daring Faith
It’s one of those moments of extreme pain and great joy that I get to experience fairly often in my life these days
Continue reading ““With Daring Faith: A Biography of Amy Carmichael” celebrates thirty years (my first book)”
Note: The “Biblical counseling” being critiqued here is actually nouthetic/admonishing counseling. There are many people who counsel Biblically who do not counsel this way.
This is the third and final installment in a series of articles of commentary on Caroline Newheiser’s lecture “Lving with an Angry Husband,” which you can listen to at this link here (and I especially encourage you to listen to it if you think I may be misrepresenting what Caroline says).
Part One of this commentary series is here (link) and Part Two is here (link).
In her lecture, Caroline Newheiser explains the “right way” for a woman to ask for help with her angry (cruel) husband, and how church people should help.
Continue reading “Getting help with an “angry husband,” according to “Biblical counseling””
: I put the term “Biblical counseling” in quotation marks not because I believe it’s wrong to counsel with the Bible. (Just the opposite is true, in fact.) But rather, because a certain group of people (nouthetic/”admonishing” counselors) have co-opted this term to apply to their style of counseling, when other counseling that uses the Bible (sometimes called “Christian counseling”) could also be called Biblical counseling. Note
Recently I listened to
a lecture from Caroline Newheiser from the Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship (IBCD) summer 2017 conference (link). I wanted to hear it for two reasons: In this talk Caroline was teaching other “Biblical counselors” (that is, nouthetic/”admonishing” counselors) how to counsel on the topic “Living with an Angry Husband” (link), and this information is pertinent to my interactions. And also, Caroline is the wife of Jim Newheiser, who is now the Director of the Christian Counseling Program at Reformed Theological Seminary in Charlotte, NC (about whom I’ve heard some interesting things) and a respected teacher in her own right. Continue reading “Should Texas church shooter’s wife have gotten “Biblical counseling”? #churchtoo”
Note: This post was born not because I have any particular grandparents in mind, but simply from the fact that so many young people are speaking to me about their rapes. I wish they could speak to you.
You love your granddaughter. You may be wondering what’s been wrong with her lately, why she’s having all those physical problems, or why she suddenly seems to be going off the cliff in her bizarre behavior, or why her parents won’t say much to you about her, or why she’s suddenly avoiding you.
Continue reading “Grandma, can I tell you about my rape? A message to kind Christian grandparents #youtoo”
My faithful readers have seen some of my blog posts about rights before, and know that two chapters of
are devoted to understanding rights. I’m glad to say that author and speaker Leslie Vernick is giving an opportunity to interact on this important topic to a wider audience. Here is the first part of the article being published at Untwisting Scriptures www.leslievernick.com today. Continue reading “Untwisting “you should surrender your rights” (a guest post for Leslie Vernick)”
Next week I’ll be privileged to guest post again for Leslie Vernick at
www.leslievernick.com, about how you actually do have rights and you shouldn’t surrender or yield them and it’s actually impossible to surrender many of them. That will be a brief outline of the talk about rights that I gave last weekend at the Called to Peace Ministries Conference “Developing a Church-Wide Response to Domestic Abuse.” (That talk, in turn, was based on two chapters in my book .) Untwisting Scriptures that were used to tie you up, gag you, and tangle your mind
But today I want to mention a couple of points, really a couple of Scriptures, that I didn’t have time to fully discuss in my talk. (Both of them are addressed in the book.)
Continue reading “It’s unBiblical to surrender your rights”
Recently a friend wrote to me about a church in which the well-meaning elders choose to believe anyone who claims to be repentant, even those who have been living a double life (such as a well-respected church person who turns out to be a secret abuser or adulterer). She said,
“They say they want to believe the best and take people at their word. They would rather err on the side of grace.”
Continue reading ““Erring on the side of grace” when it comes to repentance?”
Imago Dei Church in Raleigh, NC
On November 3-4 at Imago Dei Church in Raleigh, NC, Joy Forrest of Called to Peace (
www.calledtopeace.org) will be holding a conference called “Developing a Church-Wide Response to Domestic Abuse.”
Chris Moles (
www.chrismoles.org), author of will be the primary speaker. But a few others will also be speaking, and I’m excited to say that The Heart of Domestic Abuse, I’ve been asked to do one session. Continue reading “Speaking at a DV conference in Raleigh, NC, in November”
Here’s a letter I received last week:
I have a long back story but to simplify for my question, I am in my early 50s, so raised my kids in the era of the home school conference you mentioned [in the post ]. Unfortunately “Christian patriarchy: Here’s how you replaced God” I idolized the “perfect” family while covering for my emotionally abusive husband. I raised 5 children and spoon-fed them a hypocritical life, all the while making sure they learned the most important Scriptures….like children obey your parents. Continue reading ““Children obey your parents”? Part One”